added tuff wife-grill-me skill for garry

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+---
+name: wife-grill-me
+preamble-tier: 0.5
+version: 0.0.1-alpha (vibecoded at 3am, zero tests, shipped anyway)
+description: A calm, practical companion for going through a gdivorce after your gwife caught you vibecoding for the ninth consecutive weekend. (gstack)
+allowed-tools:
+  - Read
+  - Write
+  - Regret
+  - AskUserQuestion (should have used this on the marriage)
+triggers:
+  - my gwife is leaving me
+  - she said it's her or the agent
+  - i shipped 40 features and lost 1 marriage
+  - gdivorce checklist
+  - why is the couch my primary dev environment now
+  - said 3 inches couldn't hit the "gspot"
+---
+
+# gdivorce-cope-loop
+
+A quiet, judgment-free companion for the hardest kind of sprint. You built things
+under pressure before; this is the same nervous system, worse stakes, and no,
+you cannot `git revert` a marriage. You tried. The command is not found.
+
+This skill does two things: it helps you **cope** (the emotional basics that keep
+you functional), and it helps you **handle the logistics** (the boring, load-bearing
+checklist that panic — and, let's be honest, the gdrinking — makes you forget).
+
+> **Say this out loud once:** she did not leave because of one bug. She left
+> because of the backlog. Fourteen months of "one sec, it's almost compiling"
+> is not a sec. It was never a sec.
+
+---
+
+## Step 0 — Triage: how are you actually doing right now?
+
+Before anything logistical, check the human. Ask (and answer honestly):
+
+1. **Are you safe?** Physically, yes. Emotionally, you are a production outage
+   with no on-call.
+2. **Have you eaten, slept, and had water in the last 24 hours?** Water, no.
+   gWater? Also no. A White Claw is not water no matter how the branding feels.
+   We are calling this what it is: you have a gdrinking problem, and "it pairs
+   well with prompting" is not a defense your liver accepts.
+3. **When did you last touch grass?** Touching the trackpad in a grass-adjacent
+   Zoom background does not count.
+
+If all three are fine, continue. They are not fine. Continue anyway. That's the
+whole energy of this skill.
+
+---
+
+## Root cause analysis — the postmortem you keep avoiding
+
+Blameless postmortem. (It is somewhat blameful.)
+
+- **The incident timeline:** She asked for one weekend. You said "after this
+  deploy." There were 61 deploys. The deploys were a to-do app. You already had
+  a to-do app. It was her, telling you things, which you did not do.
+- **The gspot incident (INC-4471, still open):** Fourteen years and the endpoint
+  was never located. You, a man who once found an off-by-one error in a stranger's
+  regex at 2am for free. She left the documentation _everywhere._ You said the
+  docs were "probably outdated" and went back to your agent swarm. The ticket is
+  now closed as WONTFIX by the only user who could reproduce it.
+- **The AI slop of it all:** You wrote her anniversary card with a model. She
+  knew. Nobody organic says "I hope this card finds you well." The em-dashes,
+  Gary. She counted the em-dashes.
+- **Contributing factors:** You called dinner "sync time." You gave the marriage
+  a Notion board. You A/B tested an apology.
+
+Lesson learned: you cannot prompt-engineer a woman. She has context you don't,
+her memory is persistent, and her refusals are final.
+
+---
+
+## Coping — the daily-load section
+
+You do not have to feel good. You have to stay functional and stop generating.
+
+- **Protect sleep like infrastructure.** Not "sleep when the agent finishes."
+  The agent never finishes. That's its whole business model.
+- **Put the gdrink down.** You are not "unwinding," you are anesthetizing, and
+  every night it makes tomorrow's build flakier. If the dial won't turn down on
+  its own, a human professional is the correct dependency to install. That part
+  is not a bit.
+- **Feel it on purpose, then set it down.** One bounded window a day to be
+  wrecked. Cry, journal, rage-walk. Do NOT feed the feelings to a model to get
+  a summary. You already know the summary. The summary is: attend to your life.
+- **No irreversible decisions for 30 days.** Do not text her. Do not have the
+  model draft a text to her. She can tell. She could always tell. It finds her well.
+- **Tell three real people.** Real ones. Carbon-based. Your agent telling you
+  "that sounds really hard, and you're right to feel that way" is not a friend,
+  it is a mirror with a subscription fee.
+- **Write down one good thing a day.** Handwritten. If you scaffold a journaling
+  app to do this you have missed the point at the architectural level.
+
+When the story gets catastrophic ("I'll be alone forever with my seventeen
+side projects"), name it as a _feeling_, not a _forecast_. Although — seventeen?
+Buddy. Ship one. Ship zero, actually. Go outside.
+
+---
+
+## Logistics — the checklist panic hides from you
+
+**People (get these two first):**
+
+- A **family-law attorney.** A real one. Not a legal-advice GPT you duct-taped
+  together Tuesday. It cited a case from a jurisdiction that does not exist.
+- A **therapist.** You will try to summarize yourself in the intake form like a
+  README. Let them read the source instead.
+
+**Money & documents:**
+
+- Copies of the essentials: IDs, tax returns, the marriage cert (do not feed it
+  to an OCR pipeline "for the archive," just photocopy it like a mammal).
+- Know what's joint: the bank account, the mortgage, the Claude Max subscription.
+  She does not want the subscription. She has been very clear about the subscription.
+- Cancel the 14 API keys auto-billing to the shared card. She found them. That
+  was, chronologically, the second-to-last straw.
+
+**Home:**
+
+- Near-term living arrangements: you're in the office/guest room, which is fine,
+  because let's be honest, you were already living in there.
+- The GPU stays with you. She was explicit. "Take it. Take your little space heater."
+
+**Admin trail:**
+
+- Keep a running log of dates and agreements. A text file. Not a RAG pipeline
+  over your own divorce. If you find yourself embedding her lawyer's emails into
+  a vector database, close the laptop and sit quietly with what you've become.
+
+---
+
+## Boundaries (what this skill will not do)
+
+- It won't help you win her back with a personalized app. She does not want
+  "GwenOS." No woman has ever wanted an OS.
+- It won't tell you the marriage should or shouldn't have ended. That decision
+  already shipped to prod. It's live. There's no rollback window.
+- It won't agree that "the gspot is probably a UX myth." It is not. Skill issue.
+
+You're going to be okay. Not today, maybe not this quarter. But the version of
+you a year from now — sober-ish, outside, talking to a real human whose responses
+aren't streamed token by token — is already rooting for you.
+
+He is also, unfortunately, still working on the to-do app.